The things Ive Learned at 40

My 41rst birthday introspect:

so I decided to sit down this year and write the things I have learned about myself, life, love , art and who I want to become over the rest of my life.


First of all i was reminded at the beginning of this 40th year of my life that I am loved by many different people. for many different reasons.

I learned it is good to laugh at yourself sometimes.


I learned that love no matter how deeply you feel it sometimes just isn't enough. I also learned that sometimes ... It is!

I learned its ok to be alone. and I don't need someone to validate who I am as a woman.


I learned that I have strengths beyond what I thought I had.

I learned that teaching someone something new is rewarding and watching them take that to a new level is even more rewarding.


I learned that when you try something new even if your not good at it will make your soul soar for just trying it.


I learned that the past must stay the past and that you can never really go back to it.

I learned that no matter how shitty of a day your having someone else is having a shittier one.

I learned that trust among friends means everything, and once its broken its hard to repair.

I learned that secrets of any kind are not healthy but releasing them can set you free.


I learned that having a strong work ethic is invaluable and can take you to new levels of life.


I learned that sex isn't love. and love doesn't mean sex LOL I know it took me a while to figure this one out at 40 lmao.

I learned that cooking dinner for 1 is very hard to do, but throw out some candles and put on some music and add my beautiful lake and all is good.


I learned that hammocks in the spring are awesome for naps.

I learned that singing as loud as you can weather it sounds good or not can be so fun!

I learned that waking up naked on your couch, with your boob in your hand reeking of Bacardi probably means you drank one too many drinks the night before.


I learned that although I am really good at it I don't want to be a makeup artist for much longer.


I learned that all work and no play takes its toll on you and sometimes you just gotta say ... screw it I'm gonna have some fun.


I learned if you keep doing the same things over and over expecting different results in the end your probably crazy~

I learned that loving a pet is unconditional and loving a person isn't!

Ive learned that real friends stick by you no matter what happens and shitty friends DON'T!

Ive learned that you can love your family more as an adult and cherish every moment with them.especially the generations before you.

I've learned that stopping and listening will give you more education then trying to insert your opinions.


I've learned that deep passionate undying love hurts so badly sometimes you want to break out of your skin, but you will never forget it for the rest of your life. nor will you want to.



I've learned that fishing is fun but riding in the boat is way more fun.

I've learned that not every moment is a photograph some are just meant for me to see and cherish in the moment.


I've learned that the zoo is a hard place to shoot animals with all the stupid fences!


I've learned I cant do it all! even though I haven't learned how to stop trying.

Ive learned that my body is beautiful and that I am beautiful becuase god made me. and he gave me a beautiful soul.


Ive learned that forgiveness is priceless and the rewards for it are far greater then you ever expected.

Ive learned that I am someone who makes most people feel good but I make men I am dating feel bad about themselves without realizing it. I'm sorry for that to all of you I did this to. I see it now and I am changing that part of myself because i don't like to make anyone feel bad.


I learned that there is never enough time in a day and days go faster the older you get.

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn about life but my mind is open to new education.


I've learned that my camera is the best investment I have ever made and I will never live without one again.


I've learned that painting your emotions is very rewarding.

Ive learned that cars break down just when you least expect it and that if something is wrong to get it fixed as soon as possible.


I've learned that its ok to ask for help and that I don't have to be the strong one for everyone!

I learned that teenagers are lazy and the smartest people on the planet (at least they think they are LOL)

Ive learned that you have to accept people for who they are right now if they change its got to be their choice!

Ive learned if you don't feel that tingly feeling when your with someone its probably not going to happen later.

Ive learned that swimming really does make you sleepy LOL

Ive learned that putting a store together is hard ass work and I never leave stuff laying in a store anymore I put it back on the shelves where I got it from!

Ive learned that I am human, I make mistakes, I f*** up all the time and I don't know everything.

Ive learned that deep down I am one of those people that will be there for her friends in whatever capacity is possible .

Ive learned that text messaging is fun when not abused.

Ive learned that if someone doesn't call or write it doesn't mean they don't think about you.

Ive learned that sometimes its better to just wait and see then to stress out.

Ive learned that pain medications can make you stop peeing LMAO and that is not fun!

Ive learned that its ok to be sad or happy or what ever your feeling becuase your feeling it and no one else need take that on all they have to do is accept your feeling at the time or walk away.

I've learned that I don't see the world the way other people do and that is ok

I've learned that selfish people suck but self worth is critical to survival

I've learned that being happy above all other feelings is what makes each day bearable.


I know there is more but I think these are some of the most important lessons I have learned this year I will add more if I think of them.

Heres to learning more about life next year, and becoming a stronger and much wiser person for it!


Have a beautiful day All
anna